We’ve all heard them. Those phrases that sound nice on the surface but instantly make you squint with suspicion. They’re polite, sure—but also loaded with hidden meaning, passive aggression, or subtle judgment.
Whether it’s at work, in a group chat, or over brunch, these seemingly courteous expressions often signal trouble. Here are 23 polite phrases that may as well come with a siren and flashing lights.
23. “Let’s circle back”
Sounds collaborative, but usually means “I’m ignoring this until it becomes someone else’s problem.” It’s the corporate version of ghosting.
22. “With all due respect”
Nothing respectful has ever followed this phrase. It’s the polite way to say “you’re wrong and I’m about to tell you why.”
21. “That’s an interesting take”
Translation: “You’ve lost your mind but I’m trying to be civil.” It’s the comment-section equivalent of a slow clap.
20. “Per my last email”
This is email-speak for “can you read?” If someone types this, they are absolutely done being polite.
19. “No worries if not!”
At first glance, it’s chill and flexible. But deep down, you know they’re hoping you will and they do have worries if not.
18. “I just find it funny how…”
Buckle up, because nothing funny is coming. This is the prelude to a dissertation on exactly why they’re mad.
17. “Feel free to…”
They’re telling you to do something, but trying not to sound bossy. You are not actually free—just being diplomatically pushed.
16. “Not to be that person, but…”
They are absolutely about to be that person. And they know it.
15. “Hope that makes sense!”
This is code for “I explained it perfectly and if you don’t get it, that’s a you problem.” It’s wrapped in kindness but dripping in condescension.
14. “Thanks in advance!”
You’re not being thanked—you’re being trapped. This is a friendly-looking guilt trip with a smile.
13. “Just wanted to check in”
This is never just a check-in. It’s a polite way of saying “why haven’t you done the thing yet?”
12. “Let’s agree to disagree”
Usually dropped after losing an argument but wanting to exit with dignity. It’s the conversational version of folding with a smirk.
11. “If I’m being honest…”
This always means honesty is about to hit you like a brick. And you might not like what comes after.
10. “It’s not about you”
It’s 100 percent about you. This line is basically the reverse of what it claims.
9. “I’m not mad, I’m just disappointed”
The ultimate gut punch. It’s calm, collected, and somehow so much worse than yelling.
8. “You’re entitled to your opinion”
This is never a compliment. It’s a nice way of saying “your opinion is trash, but whatever.”
7. “Correct me if I’m wrong…”
Spoiler: they don’t think they’re wrong. And you’d better not correct them unless you’ve got charts.
6. “Thanks for your feedback”
This phrase is wearing a fake smile. It’s polite on paper, but usually just ends the conversation without absorbing anything.
5. “It’s fine, really”
If someone says this, it is not fine. This is the gateway to a grudge.
4. “Just trying to help!”
Sounds supportive, but often used after someone inserts themselves into a situation uninvited. If it comes after criticism, it’s especially sus.
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3. “That’s above my pay grade”
Sometimes this means “I can’t help,” but other times it’s just a classy way to avoid getting involved. Either way, don’t expect follow-through.
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2. “Let me know if you need anything!”
It’s sweet until you actually need something. Then you realize it was more about optics than action.
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1. “I’m sorry you feel that way”
The most polite form of non-apology ever invented. It’s basically shrugging in sentence form.
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