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Lip Service: 10 Surprising Facts About the Mystery of Kissing

Is kissing universal among human cultures? Do animals kiss? In a nutshell, it depends on the kind of kiss. Kissing is one of the most universal yet mysterious human behaviors. We lock lips for love, comfort, and even fun. But why do we do it? Dive into these fascinating facts about smooching, and you’ll see it’s not as simple as you think.

1. Romantic kissing is not universal across all human cultures

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Not everyone kisses romantically! In fact, some cultures view it as strange or even gross. About half of the world’s societies don’t use kissing romantically at all. Yet, in others, it’s a cornerstone of relationships. Why it caught on in some places and not others is still a mystery.

2. The earliest recorded kiss dates back 4,500 years

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British Museum

The first kiss in recorded history appears in ancient texts from Mesopotamia. These early accounts weren’t about romance, though—they described kisses between family members or greetings among friends. Over time, the romantic kiss emerged. How it evolved remains one of history’s unanswered questions.

3. Kissing may have evolved from primate grooming behaviors

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Ever seen monkeys picking bugs off each other? That might be where kissing started. Grooming builds trust and strengthens bonds. Over thousands of years, humans may have traded grooming for kissing as a way to connect. It’s weirdly sweet, isn’t it?

4. Theories on the origin of kissing include maternal feeding practices

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Some scientists think kissing could trace back to mothers feeding babies by mouth. Gross? Maybe, but it made sense back then and we see it done in the animal kingdom. The act of pressing lips could have signaled care and affection. That simple gesture might explain why we still feel loved when we kiss.

5. Kissing can transmit certain diseases

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Sure, kisses feel great, but they come with risks. A single smooch can spread viruses like mono, colds, or even herpes. Saliva swaps all kinds of bacteria — some helpful, some not. Yet, we keep kissing, proving the rewards often outweigh the risks.

6. Kissing releases hormones that promote bonding and stress relief

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Kisses trigger a chemical fireworks show in your brain. Oxytocin, the “love hormone,” helps you bond with your partner. Cortisol, the stress hormone, drops significantly. It’s science’s way of saying: “Relax, and enjoy this moment.”

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7. The act of kissing involves complex muscular coordination

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Pucker up — your face is working hard! Kissing uses 34 facial muscles and up to 112 postural muscles. The orbicularis oris (your kissing muscle) does the heavy lifting. It’s a workout you didn’t even know you were doing.

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8. Kissing customs vary widely across different cultures

Cozy winter moment of a couple sharing an Eskimo kiss outdoors.
Photo by Daria Andrievskaya

Eskimo kisses, cheek kisses, or nose-to-nose greetings—kissing looks different everywhere. In some cultures, a kiss seals respect, not romance. Others, like the French, elevate it to an art form. The variety is endless and endlessly fascinating.

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9. Some animals engage in behaviors analogous to human kissing

Two fluffy white dogs share a tender moment outdoors, enhancing their bond.
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Humans aren’t the only ones who kiss—or something like it. Bonobos share food through mouth-to-mouth contact, and dogs “kiss” with licks. Even certain fish bump mouths. It seems the urge to connect transcends species.

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10. The study of kissing is known as philematology

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Yes, there’s an entire field dedicated to studying smooches. Philematologists explore everything from why we kiss to how it affects health. It’s a small but passionate group of researchers. Because, honestly, who wouldn’t want to study kissing?

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